This week Host Kaiyura Albery speaks with ex Air Force turned Life Coach Ivan L. James II, about the limiting beliefs that hold us back and how we can overcome them.
Ivan left his career in the Air Force to focus on the things that really matter, sharing his presence, wit and all the right questions to bring light into the lives of others.
If you want to know more about Ivan L. James II, you can access his online community here.
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Welcome to Reflexive Perspectives. Today we are leafing through the playbook to overcome our limiting beliefs with Life Coach Ivan L. L. James
What are limiting beliefs?
Who is accountable for our limiting beliefs?
'Surface Beliefs', the tip of the iceberg
How do we prepare a solid foundation for healing?
The importance of your environment
Finding the tools, finding the support and being ready to do the work
How Ivan facilitates the deeper work, forming the right questions
Expressing to release suppressed beliefs and emotions
How do limiting beliefs form?
Finding the core of the data is where the beautiful work begins
Introducing new data to counter old programming
Linking affirmations to actions
Creating a map of where you want to go
The difference between acting 'as if' and acting from the 'what if?'
Creating stories to adapt to a changing environment
The consequences of acting 'as if'
Intimacy is born from that place of conversation
When the ego can be unkind
Holding space for the emotional barriers
When holding space doesn't come naturally in close relationships
Not having self-love made it hard to hold space
Integrity, authenticity and paying attention
Navigating coaches online
Holding space used to be an effort, but over time it has become natural
Doing the shadow work improves your ability to hold space
How does grace come into play?
Grace through the lens of being in the darkness
Addiction and shame, shame as the opposite of grace
Grace as a fundamental pillar of healing and transformation
Choosing to leave behind shame
Hope as possibility, faith as 'knowing'
Without knowing where we are going, we can get stuck in the past
This sounds like a lot of work, why would we even bother?
Not everyone is ready to do the work and that's ok. We can choose that for ourselves
The 'why' we are doing this work is going to look different for everyone
Discovering the 'why' can be part of the process
For Ivan it was about becoming the best version of himself, both for himself and then for others
Noticing the light in the darkness
Ivan is Grateful for others sharing their light and wanting to do the same
Thank you Ivan L. L. James for joining me this week. Links from today's show can be found in the episode description
